I come with warning labels.

I've learned the hard way: real people and real respect matter more than numbers, clout, or fake alliances. Either you get the real me, or you will see me go silent.

These are boundaries - because I value myself, my family, and my real relationships. I have a small circle by design, and I'm perfectly fine with it shrinking if someone is not acting in good faith.

For most people, summary:
Don't lie, try to bring unhappiness to me, or cheer the misery of others.

You lose access to me if you do the following.

(Online, or Offline.)

1. Habitual Dishonesty

Trust is non-negotiable.
If you lie, omit critical facts, or reshape events to suit your narrative, I will find out.

These things are hard-stops for me.

• If you try to drive a wedge into my relationships.
• Pretend to have my back/support me, and then turn around and trash me.
• Victim blaming.
• Christianity vanishes when your politics show up.
• Deliberately misrepresent me or my words to attack, silence, or dunk on me.

2. Bad-Faith Actors

If you argue to "win" rather than to understand — straw-man, sealion, or feign confusion — you are not worth my time.
I care about my country, transcending any political party, and you should too.

3. No Accountability

Everyone screws up. Own it. Become better incrementally.
I forgive easily when there's honesty. I don't tolerate blame-shifting, DARVO, gaslighting, or rewriting history to avoid responsibility.

4. Abusive Use of Authority or Platform

If you use your role - pastor, leader/officer, admin, influencer, parent, manager... to shame, intimidate, manipulate, or silence others... You're out.
Politicians/officials should read this twice.
Christian pastors.... sigh, you know better... and I know you know better.

5. Cruelty Disguised as “Truth”, “Jokes”, Righteousness...
OR celebrating harm upon another human being.

I simply won't tolerate this.
Brutality dressed up as honesty, FAFO culture, humor, moral self-superiority, or righteousness is still cruelty.

Celebrating harm to others - when claiming moral/religious authority tells me all I need to know about you.

If someone says they're a Christian but they keep saying "FAFO" to everything, rather than being open to understanding of what really happened...
Don't believe them when they say they are Christian. Likely a fake.

6. Conspiracy Thinking That Replaces Evidence

Reality matters. Talking about false prophets, fakery, and those who pander the fakery that matches their narrative. Being skeptical is healthy, but expecting someone else to think for you is not good.

7. Inability to Admit Error

If someone never says “I was wrong,” “I overstated that,” or “I need to rethink this,” they are unsafe to reason with.

8. Boundary Violators

Anyone who does these things with me or my family, are outta here.

• collects media/info for leverage
• takes my words completely out of context for a strawman argument
• drags others into conflicts
• refuses to respect “no”

9. Performative Outrage Addicts

If your identity depends on rage, humiliation, and public pile-ons, you aren't seeking justice - you are feeding an addiction/bloodlust.

Frustration at real problems is human.... I'll join you.

10. People Who Demand Loyalty Over Integrity

The moment someone expects silence, complicity, or dishonesty “for the team.”

That includes politics, religion, friendships - all of it.
No ideology, party, or church gets a pass to abandon core values or basic decency with me.

Y'all know better... I'm not afraid of calling my own team out. (Standards!)

Conservatives: Discarding the principles in the US Constitution when it isn't convenient, or when it's someone you don't personally like.

Nothing in conservatism requires us to be a total arsehole to people. Everyone's trying to imitate Trump's meanness, and it is NOT WORKING WELL.
(Clutches pearls - HE SAID ARSEHOLE!!! Why yes, yes I did, arsehole! 😂)

I am rebranding as a conservative independent, because of this.
Long live American freedom, liberty, our Constitution, and tradition. Long live actual core values!

Christians/Church People: Christians are no longer known as being followers of Jesus anymore. We're known by how we vote, or being a jerk, in most cases.
That's a big problem, church!

Final Principle (the filter behind all 10)

Disagreement, discussion, learning is part of growth.

I associate with people who show honesty and basic human decency — especially when challenged. I ally with creators, not destroyers.

If those are absent, access is revoked — calmly, without drama, and without apology.